If only....

Fri, Oct 23, 2009 at 8:47 PM By: cisforcookie6

You date someone because you like them. You date someone because you have some common ground. The longer your with them the more of an atrraction you have. But what happens when you get really close to someone and you loose the spark that was first there? If only I knew I wouldn't be hurt. I met someone in a chatroom last i think either december or january. We stayed friends for a while. Got really close and were talking every day. When we didn't talk I felt like there was something missing. So I told him that I had feelings for him and he said he did too. So we started dating. He made me so happy. But latley the sparks just aren't there. The romance is missing. Once of us is always tired when we talk. It's just not the same. So I told him I how I felt and at first he kept saying I don't know but I got him to tell me what he was really thinking. He told me it was really hard for him because we didn't live close and I totally feel the same. It's hard not living close to him. It feels like I'm losing him and I told him but couldn't help crying. He kept saying it was ok and that we would talk tonight. But maybe this just isn't working. Maybe feelings aren't enough. I don't even know. I just know that I hate feeling like this. I know I want to figure out whats going on and just deal with it so I can be ok. :( If only love were a little easier

  1. PINK_ADDICT1 avatar

    On Dec 19, PINK_ADDICT1 said:

    That is very intense. i know what ya mean i think lol

  2. _rayne_ avatar

    On Oct 28, _rayne_ said:

    That really is horrible. I think I'm losing who I love, too. He's in the mental hospital. I can't talk to him, and from what everyone is telling me, I won't be able to again.
    Sometimes you do need someone there. Sometimes someone to hold you, carress you, and kiss you. To tell you it's all okay, and hug you to reassure you. Talking doesn't always do it.

  3. Recklezz avatar

    On Oct 28, Recklezz said:

    I had a very similar experience… the beginning was the same, exactly how you described it. I was totally in love with him (and so he was with me, as he claims) … well how it ended is not important now, it’s about your situation not mine, sooo here’s what I’d like to tell you:

    Love is not easy, life is not easy and your situation is very difficult – making the whole thing very damn difficult.

    Feelings are not enough. Every relationship comes to a point, where feelings are no longer enough. There has to be more. And especially in your situation it is tough.

    I know you will say you love him though you don’t live close to each other (and haven’t met before?)
    And I believe you, but… well…

    *sighs* seems I don’t have the heart to tell you what I really want to say, because I had wished for you that you could really be happy with him (& be with him) but I guess it’s unlikely that such dreams come true.

    If you want to talk about this more deeply you know I’m there for you sweetie *hugs*

  4. emo_pudding_bamf!!! avatar

    On Oct 25, emo_pudding_bamf!!! said:

    damn, thats some intense stuff, i dont think i could help u very much w/ this, as i have little to no experiance in the real world, im not old enough, srry, i wish i could help more =(

  5. Thatskinnyguy avatar

    On Oct 24, Thatskinnyguy said:

    you're very good at expressing your feelings, got to give you that. :)
    i can't say i have much experience in this department but with the little i have i would have to say that long distance relationships are shit. sorry but i was the guy that just couldn't handle it. i lost the will to communicate via msn or whatever, it just felt like it wasn't real at all.
    i'll come back to you when i have an awnser to what you should do. : (

  6. rocking roach avatar

    On Oct 24, rocking roach said:

    dont know what 2 say but hope you will get fine xXx

  7. 2xs avatar

    On Oct 23, 2xs said:

    um wow sorry for the multiple posts, my comp messed up...

  8. 2xs avatar

    On Oct 23, 2xs said:

    i know, you're in a really tough situation.
    the best thing to do is to stay really good friends, because the sparks are still there, but its easy to get distracted and then the sparks go away. i've been in a similar relationship and we ended up breaking up but staying really good friends. whenever one of us freaks out, we still have the other to rely on because your relationship and perseverance creates a bond that noone else can compete with. i know this is really long and not exactly the best thing someone could say to you right now, but its just how i found is the best way to deal...

  9. 2xs avatar

    On Oct 23, 2xs said:

    i know, you're in a really tough situation.
    the best thing to do is to stay really good friends, because the sparks are still there, but its easy to get distracted and then the sparks go away. i've been in a similar relationship and we ended up breaking up but staying really good friends. whenever one of us freaks out, we still have the other to rely on because your relationship and perseverance creates a bond that noone else can compete with. i know this is really long and not exactly the best thing someone could say to you right now, but its just how i found is the best way to deal...

  10. 2xs avatar

    On Oct 23, 2xs said:

    i know, you're in a really tough situation.
    the best thing to do is to stay really good friends, because the sparks are still there, but its easy to get distracted and then the sparks go away. i've been in a similar relationship and we ended up breaking up but staying really good friends. whenever one of us freaks out, we still have the other to rely on because your relationship and perseverance creates a bond that noone else can compete with. i know this is really long and not exactly the best thing someone could say to you right now, but its just how i found is the best way to deal...

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